Friday Fragments


Ginko tree limb, Oxford Botsnical Garden, Autumn 1986

I visited my dermatologist yesterday, for my three-month checkup and she found another mole going haywire, most likely a Melanoma.  Darn. She biopsied it and said, “You know the drill.”

After six previous cancers I certainly do. Mostly its an annoyance at this point.  I will receive the results next week, contact the MOHs surgeon and my oncologist who will tell me the same thing he did last time about probabilities and such.

Mind you, I’m not blowing this off. It’s just a way of life for me at this point.  I see the dermatologist every three months because Melanomas kill and I have a propensity to develop them (this will be skin cancer number seven).

When I talked with my sister Michelle, she said, “You know Mom was always fighting these things.” No, I didn’t know.  My sister lived with Mom ten more years after I left home.

This propensity to develop skin cancers seems somewhat hereditary, or so I remind my progeny. Exposure to sun, smoking and other factors are contributing causes, however, being fair of skin, whether Asian or European descent, and having an ancestor with the issue, definitely puts one at risk.


Given I am not to use the pool until the biopsy wound on my leg heals, I have more time for hobbies like working on the family tree, crocheting and reading. Thus I don’t have much to report except making a bit of progress on all of them with four books on the go (three about presidents), corresponding with someone who thought she was related via the family tree, and starting a new Afghan with a Harlequin pattern.  I was peased that I figured out the harlequin pattern,  which is very pretty, if complicated.  A mental win for me.

Yesterday, I stopped by a medical supply store and bought waterproof bandaids so I will get back to the pool on Monday.  I miss it when I am absent, and the snow Monday messed me up, so I missed two days this week.


As we discussed childhood memories over breakfast yesterday, David recounted how his family had traveled to Estonia in 1935, sailing from New York to Stockholm, crossing Sweden by train, then taking another ship from Sweden to Finland, crossing Finland by train, then taking a third ship to Talin in Estonia where they caught the train to Narva where his grandparents lived.  He knew the names of the ships and the names of the ports they entered and left.  He said recounting this to himself at night helped him fall asleep.

Geez, I can barely remember where I lived when I was five years old, let alone such detail.  I told him he was amazing and should write it down.  Someday a great-grandchild will care.


23 thoughts on “Friday Fragments

  1. You two have both led fascinating lives and you are so right that you both should write it down… There will be some descendants who would give anything to know you better, because I have been that person. I know how much I appreciated my Aunt who told me family stories that my mom never did.

    Good luck with the MOHs …. I hope you are able to get back to swimming … Every time I miss my exercise it gets harder and harder to get back to where I was.


  2. I find that Beloved’s long-term memory is fine, it’s what day it is and what he had for dinner yesterday, they’re the problem.

    Skin cancer definitely cannot be taken lightly. But you are a sensible woman and keep an eye on things.

    I too have stopped writing my memoir. I wish I could make myself continue because I certainly remembered many events which I had almost forgotten. The more you remember the more there is to unearth.


    • David’s recall is very similar. I am amazed at how accurate is his remembrance of long ago events. Of course I wasn’t there, so I am comparing his recall of yesterday as I remember his earlier telling and making a comparison. Convoluted to say the least.


  3. Good on you for staying ahead of the skin problems. In spite of the inconveniences, it is best to stick around for a long while, n’est ce pas?

    David’s writing a memoir would be a terrific idea. As you say, the generations to follow would be most grateful. So glad we got Patty’s father to write about his war experiences from that day at Pearl Harbor and on. I don’t think my kids or grand-kids really appreciate it yet, but they may at a later time. But it is the generations several times removed that will get the most out of it as it will seem like ancient history to them and they will be proud to have a hero in their family.


    • Yes, we great-grandchildren of brave men and women who built America appreciate what they experienced. I have been thrilled to find out more about my paternal grandfather’s early career as a stagecoach guard in the badlands of The Dakota territory, as well as his own fathers military experience in the Kaisers army. Discovered some of my distant German cousins died in WWI fighting for Germany, which makes me think very differently about the “enemy.”


  4. Wonder what it would take to motivate your husband to occasionally write down, or maybe dictate a verbal recording of his memories? Maybe your husband would do so with you as listener, occasional questioner for an hour or so sessions. My brother waited too long to begin writing his recollections from WWII and had only managed to complete a couple pages before his medical & memory status altered. I’ve been writing my own from time to time for family, sharing a few on my blog.

    Glad you keep regular checks on your skin as unwelcome cell mutations can certainly be an issue especially for those of us who are light skinned. I had a few sunburns when young despite trying to be careful about sun exposure most of the time, but then we didn’t know as much then as we learned later. I get regular checks and have cautioned my children to do the same.

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  5. David is absolutely amazing. Wow! I can’t remember much of my childhood or even what I did last week. I laugh about it but it’s always worried my brother and me since we have a lot of Alzheimer in the family.

    What a coincidence that we both wrote about sun damage on the skin today. My sister-in-law who is very fair skinned (Irish) has had a LOT of moles or spots removed in the last few years. I don’t think we knew about sun damage and skin cancer when we were young.

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  6. David should definitely write these things down. You mentioned a little while ago that our future children, children’s children will not have to search so hard as we are write now. It is a wonderful part of the digital world. So sorry to hear about your biopsy and hope that it is nothing as you certainly seem to have had enough of them. Your comments came through. I am just slow in reading before publishing these last few days. I think I have some kind of bug going on as I am very lethargic. Onward and upward! I am thinking of learning how to knit and crochet after all these years. You have inspired me.

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