Saturday Sampler

In a comment to my last post, Michelle over at Rambling Woods mentioned she began cooking at age 12, and it got me to thinking about the girls I knew, and a few boys, who learned to cook early in life because both parents worked, and they had to help out at home.

Although they were what some call “latch-key” kids, most of the kids I knew struck me as very responsible.  I admired them, however, my parents, who were a bit overprotective, did not like me visiting anyone whose Mom wasn’t home.

My Mom, was a Middle-class housewife, the sign of which in the 1940s and 1950s was that she was the “stay-at-home-mom” depicted in advertising and soap operas.  Thanks to TV, the Middle-class Mom became the woman many wanted to emulate.

When I was eight years old, we left the country for the city and moved into a post-WWII housing development with a huge green space behind the houses.  Although moms could see us from their kitchen windows, most days we managed an ‘unsupervised by adults‘ pick-up game of one kind or another…softball, dodgeball, ‘Red Rover’ and others. If squabbles arose, we worked it out, the older kids upholding “order” and the younger kids minding the elders.

Today, I often wonder how much of the current unrest among youth as well as anger and the expectation that the government will care for you at every stage of your life is the result of the propensity of parents and other adults to overprotect children and manage every aspect of their lives? Are the days of childhood creativity, innovation and responsibility learned early in life gone?

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Yesterday, in my continuing efforts to relearn dubious cooking skills, I tried a new dish, Florentine eggs.   The dish was simple to make and turned out well. I found the recipe in my favorite “high protein-lowcarb cookbook” by Eades. Basically, it involves spinach, eggs and ricotta cheese. My kind of dish.

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I finished the baby blanket for the new great-grandchild, a little boy whose name will probably be Hayden. Whereas in WI it receives the German “Heiden,” in the South it is Hayden, I believe.IMG_0863

26 thoughts on “Saturday Sampler

  1. The baby blanket is great — I love that the colors make it one that he will be able to keep and use forever — it doesn’t scream ‘sweet tiny little baby’.

    I think heliocopter parenting is the worst thing in the world; I feel so sorry for kids today who have no freedom and no time away from managed activities. Creative, independent play is so vital for growing up smart and independent.

    I feel like I am re-learning cooking skills too, because our style of eating is so different from how it used to be (both by necessity and desire). LIghter fare (like eggs Florentine) is what we like now.

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  2. We were latchkey kids and that’s why I chose to be a stay-at-home mum. I always loved the days my mum was off work and we came back to a warm – but always messy, for some reason; I guess she knew how to relax! – house. I wanted my children to have that feeling every day and I never regretted my choice.

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  3. I think you may be right about the benefits of having independence at a young age as I think it benefited me. Such opportunities as I had no longer were as prevalent thirty plus years later when my children were young partially due to culture changes. While we didn’t have neighborhood kids gathering to play as you describe, my older husband often described that experience. For my children sports were all organized leagues with participants needing to have all the equipment, and uniforms.

    Observing life around me I internalized at a very early age life was unpredictable, I would be wise to always be able to take care of myself, and to try to have options for every situation.

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    • Because my Mom never recovered physically from the birth of my younger brother and my Dad was away from home ninety percent of the time, and I was the oldest child, I learned early that one had to become independent to survive. Fortunately, I had a good example in my Aunt Marge, who never married and took care of her aged parents until they died.
      My granddaughters are all fairly independent probably because they grew up in a small city where everyone knew everyone else.

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  4. Parents hover a lot these days. University profs complain about phone calls from the parents of their students, something unheard of a few years ago. Raising children to be independent is an important skill that seems to be forgotten by many people now.

    I love your quilt and congratulations on the coming new addition to your family. How wonderful!

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  5. I recognise the stitches in the baby blanket – I’ve been hampered a bit lately by double vision, but must get back to the crochet, it is therapeutic. Being able to play safely outside is not something a lot of children have these days, yet it builds character.

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  6. Yes, parents are so afraid, and parents so overschedule their kids, that kids can’t be kids. Yes too, I was told not to bring home frogs and not to go to Thompson’s pond. I had to be home by 4 to put Gimpa’s potatoe in the oven and set the table. Ahhhhhhhhhhh…..

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  7. I was a stay at home mom for the most part but made sure our son grew up to be self sufficient. I didn’t have a career unless you consider being a navy wife my unpaid career. For over 20 years I looked after the needs of a lot of wives when their husbands took out to sea, had to attend a lot of meetings, throw a lot of coffee get togethers, lunches and more. I never regretted any of it but nowadays would vehemently encourage any daughter – any child – of mine to get a good education so that she or he could support herself and her family if needed. I have seen several friends who have gone through divorce and also become widows who are now suffering for the lack of a career.

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    • When you have a good marriage, and your husband is dependable, everything works fine. In my family this was not the case. My mom suffered because dad was not dependable. My sister and I suffered because we married alcoholic skirt-chasers. My SIL, all three of them, suffered because my brother has problems. Ditto my daughter, several aunts and potentially, a granddaughter. Also, I have known many friends who had bad experiences owing to alcoholic relationships.

      You are REALLY fortunate Denise.

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      • I count my blessings every day Dianne. I have friends who have not had a happy life and tell me all the time how lucky I am but I realize from their experiences that things can change in a second. I think you and they are amazing as you have all had trials by fire so to speak, and have come out at the other end stronger for it.

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  8. W told me when we were first married that he didn’t think his wife should have to work. Well that sure changed! Our kids were latch key kids and I believe it did help to make them responsible and independent. Beautiful job on the baby blanket. I love the colours. ❤️

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