I won’t be away very long in October, only about 4 days, but David wants me to hire someone to come in while I am gone. I think this must be the first time he has ever asked for help. Perhaps he is beginning to realize it is okay to ask.
I asked him to be specific, when should the person be here and what does he expect them to do? He had a more difficult time with that question. I can see this will take some negotiation.
I don’t know if he really needs help, or whether he just doesn’t want me to go anywhere. Too bad, I purchased my ticket in May so as to get a good rate, and that’s that. I took out travel insurance on the trip, so I could probably get a refund if he truly was ill. Right now, I think he is just scared to be alone.
David doesn’t want to travel. He doesn’t want to go anywhere, but I want to visit my son and his family. He thought it was a good idea that I travel alone, so I am. He can’t back out now.
All this brings up the question of how much thought should we give to being on our own in later life? Sometimes we are on our own for days or weeks when the other party is hospitalized. I have had my share of that and so has he. Lately, he has had more hospital time, while my procedures have been outpatient.
I liked living on my own after my last child left for college back in the early 80s. It didn’t last long. I married David around the time John went off to college. Thus, I have never lived alone. I lived with parents and siblings, husband, parents again, husband and children, children only, husband and children, children only, husband. Maybe I would like living on my own, I think from time to time. However, in the dead of night, a frightening sensation of being “all alone,” sometimes leaves me cold.
David says he is going to die alone, and I suppose each of us does in the end. Maybe, never been there or done that. My favorite line on this topic came from Bob Hope. I’ve written it before but it bears repeating. When Bob was dying his family and friends crowded around his bed. He looked up and the last thing he said was, “At last, playing to a full house.”
David a few years back with Johnny. He won’t be alone.